Just finished the book, Mindset – The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck… and I wish I had read this book when I first started the 3.0 Project. It’s a great starting point for anyone that feels absolutely stuck! It applies to all aspects of life, like your job, relationship, and/or parenting skills.
Although the 3.0 Project was a great “first step” in my development, I didn’t realize that I wasn’t in a Growth-Mindset to begin with. This book talks about the differences between a Fixed-Mindset and Growth-Mindset, and how and why we should be adopting the latter.
Ironically enough, when I started reading the book, I thought to myself “Hmmm, I usually take initiative to learn and challenge myself… Hmmm, I’m pretty good at taking criticism… and oh, yeah I’m pretty humble… This book probably doesn’t apply to me.” Then I kept reading. And reading. And I found myself relating to the Fixed-Mindset people more and more. I was shocked. All those excuses I’ve written about were a result of my “fixed-mindedness”. It’s not the world’s fault that I’m unsatisfied… it’s mine.
So, here’s my four “take-a-ways” from my reading:
- Stay humble
- Check your ego at the door
- Keep learning and growing
- Value integrity and sincerity
I know what you’re thinking: “Yeah, obviously!” Doesn’t it sound so easy? Think back to all your conversations at work last week. How many times have you been defensive or tried to cover up mistakes? I would need more than two hands for me to count. The above four points came easier to me when I was at an entry-level job. I was eager to learn, eager to impress, and not afraid to make mistakes. I was a newbie after all! But the more experienced I got, the more I had to demonstrate my “intelligence”. Had to fake-it-till-I-make-it. Well, I’m not making it. Not even close.
The most bold and assertive people at my workplace are “the brightest stars in the sky”. They tend to “know” everything already. And since corporate life is so competitive, I felt the need to outdo these people. Be more bold, be more assertive, more intelligent. But at some point, you cross the line and stunt your growth. That’s what happened to me, and I bet it’s happening to so many people as well and they don’t even know it yet.
I encourage you to read the book, and please tell me what you think!