Ok so it’s been a minute since I’ve mentioned my love life. To be quite honest, I haven’t blogged about dating-or it’s near non-existence where I’m concerned-because it hasn’t been that great.
Yet after talking to some of my girls lately, who by the way are: professionally successful women, holding it down with the finances, stay on fleek and can do the domestic bit-no scene; it seems in this world of 6 billion plus people, finding love is more of a herculean quest, than a seamless part of life that comes together when the time is right.
I’m going to sound so corny for saying this as a 2018 millennial, but I absolutely hope to have a bombastic, fantastic, Mr. and Mrs. Lover Lover type love. Yes dear readers, I’m putting it out there like that. Ya’ll can keep them receipts and check in with me in a couple years; but that’s what I want and no, I’m not going to settle.
If it is that type of love is not for me, then I’m perfectly happy to keep it pushing and continue loving myself to the fullest.
We all know that self love is the best love and without this we could never appreciate, or understand the love language of another with whom our souls are entwined. Emily Brontë captured this expression of love the best with the following passage in Wuthering Heights:
“Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.”
Yup! That’s the expression of love I hope to have, when I walk in love and not fall in love. I don’t expect a love like this or any other to be easy, painless, or stress free, with only the best of days. I mean, let’s be real, Christian wedding vows clearly lets both parties entering into a marriage know that the expectation of life, will essentially mirror the opening lines of a Charles Dickens’ novel.
A Tale of Two Cities – Charles Dickens
“It was the best of times. It was the worst of times. It was the season of light, it was the season of darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair.”
Christian Wedding Vows
“For better or for worse. For richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health; till death do us part.”
Life is all about balance. So, I am not out here looking for perfect. Actually, I would prefer someone who accepts their imperfections as I do. Someone with whom I can connect with beyond the physical attraction and intellectual admiration. My hope is to have a love on a spiritual level where we can both grow to say say, our souls are the same.
Going forward when dating I will continue to be: cautious, yet adventurous; guarded, yet open; wiser to the game, yet ever hopeful.
Till next time dear readers!